I can't think of one more thing I can do on my end to support my DH.
- He's been out of work for three years. His skills are outdated. He goes to interviews but never gets anything.
- He ran for political office and lost. He has zero experience in city matters. He won't volunteer for anything because he thinks he already has a ton of experience
He's pretty much giving up at this point. Out of 22 years he's been employed for maybe 10-12. He can't keep a job, and pretty much anything he touches he fails at. He went back to school - one school defaulted on him in the middle of a degree, and then he flunked most of his other classes. He's half-heartedly tried to start his own businesses, but can never stay focused enough to do what needs to be done.
He has delusions of grandeur constantly that I think are probably a direct result of the failure he is at this point in his life. He's a good dad and helps out around the house, but anything beyond that is just not happening.
This morning he was down about the political results. I look at him and feel badly that at 45 he is literally where he was 20 years ago - not one bit of progress. It's hard to know what to say or do anymore because anything I suggest will fall on deaf ears, so why even bother? For example, his latest aspiration is to go and get training as a project manager. Great - so how will you accomplish this? He has no clue, not one bit of motivation or thought on how to see it through.
My first inclination is always to do the legwork for him. Always. I started pulling up information on getting the PMP and then suddenly had a realization that this is pointless. Just like every other idea that I've researched for him, with nothing to show for it. I've spent countless hours researching, pulling up plans, mapping out next steps, trying to support and cheerlead, with nothing to show for it.
So at this point I'm going to try something new. Instead of doing all that, I'm going to let him be the one to drive. I can't waste any more time on this.
Any other ideas on how I can support him? The situation is honestly quite sad. There's really nothing positive here, other than he does a good job on the laundry and dishes (which are super helpful).