How to survive your book.

My wife was very pleased and happy to find your book on ADHD & Marriage. She read it , and it made a lot of sense to her. ( It's was like she wrote the book her self ) she would say.We would read passages from the book as we read she would start crying describing this is exactly how she feels. As for some one who has been tested most of his younger life. I was no stranger to ADHD. All those PhD's never diagnosed me with ADHD, but after her eureka moment with your book and the circles that just go round and round on this subject I agreed to therapy and tests. Over 1k in Dr. bills and tests we got a inconclusive on my ADHD. I personally do not take any form of medication including aspirin .What I'm asking is how do I survive this marriage with your book thrown in my face and your emphasis on medication?