Submitted by abbyrd16 on 10/29/2018.
Husband had 3 jobs in 6 months. He was let go of his most recent job last Thursday. We have four young children. Moved out of state for this job. (Fifth move in nine years). His 6th job in 9 years. Accountability is not a strong suit for those with ADD. Need words of hope please.
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Submitted by jennalemone on
What a worrysome position you are in! This cannot go on for your health sake and your children's development sake. You need to move to a place where YOU have support and then work independently from your husband because he is not willing/able to support your family in a healthy way. He will not magically "get it" if he has not gotten it so far. My H did not get it until I left him in a cold house without electricity because he did not pay the electric bill. Some people must feel the pain of their inaction before it actually gets into their brain. In the end of a long marriage to him, after all the drama and fear are gone, you will not respect him if you try to love and stay with this man. Find yourself some support and lean on them for a year if you must. You are going to have to be independent of him.
I wish I had the right words
Submitted by Denise B on
I wish I had the right words to say to make it all better but I dont. What I can say is, I just cant depend on my H for money and a steady job. Its been tough over the past 11 years but when he walks away from a job and we are left with nothing, it sucks but I have to suffer too. I have to always make sure our expenses are kept low and we dont go into a lot of debt because in the end, its all me. I love my H and he has really tried to do better over the years but when it comes to a steady job, yeah - he cant. When he is working, I just make sure I bank as much of that money that I can or I try to put it towards something that I am trying to pay off. I do let him know that we are now down to nothing and that is just how it is. I am frustrated myself after the past two weeks. He ended up on the couch and hasnt worked now for two weeks. That leaves us $60 for the next two weeks. One thing that I guess is good for us is, we dont have children so that is one stresser I do not have to contend with. Again, I dont have the answers or any ray of hope to pass on but what I do have is understanding and prayers. Just note, your not alone. This site is great and I hope someone out there can give you a little more of what you need. I will be thinking of you and praying that you can make since of it all in your head and see the path you need to take.