My husband was diagnosed with ADD as a child. I strongly suspect he suffers from Adult ADD or ADHD. He tells me his mind goes a million miles a minute, and I sense he is out of control.
He's been suffering from severe depression. We have had major problems lately; spent some time apart. It seems like things were improving. However, he still has unresolved issues and a lot of resentment towards me.
My parents are both very hard-headed. They do not sugarcoat. They are very driven people and can be abusive. Consequently, I am not the most mouselike person in an argument. However, I try not to resort to name-calling. My husband calls himself names, normally a-hole and a loser, and says I imply this. I hate this! My tone does not bode well for me, I suppose. My husband is tired of "taking my shit" and has started to get aggressive and angry in arguments. He is starting to frighten me... this is not the person I married. Everything I say is an insult to him. His needs are wild and, I find, inappropriate. When I ask for details, and expose that he hasn't thought the situation through, he turns abusive. Now he wants to run far from me. I am going to let him run. But I know he will come back and be angry again.
I'm scared, don't know what to do. Does anyone else experience this? Where you can't say anything?