I am married. My husband is not married.

He NEVER starts a conversation or calls me.  I tested to see how long he would go if I didn't approach him to talk.  Not a word or a nod for OVER FIVE DAYS and it was me who ended up approaching him!!! This weekend there was my family event and I said, "Don't go. You haven't talked to me in days.  I am tired of pretending to people that we are a couple. I will tell the people there we are fighting and I don't want you to be there."  THAT got his attention. He went in his own car anyway and pretended nothing was wrong.  He didn't want THEM to know we weren't getting along.  Then apologized and promised yesterday morning he would be better (A new one!) I said then HE had to approach me to talk.  He promised.  I said, "REMEMBER at 9:30 this morning you are promising to approach me to talk this afternoon - not too late.  I don't believe you will follow through."  He said, I know, I know, I promise.  Then he laughed like I was being silly.  At 7 pm he still had not approached me to talk and when I was leaving he came to the car with an innocent "what?" look on his face - still not talking until I asked why he had not approached me. He started a fight saying I am too hard to talk to.  CRAZY.   I am married.  My husband is not married.

I am happy you said it before me...

OMG!! I feel the same way..only he makes me feel like I am not married to him,while he goes around wearing his weeding ring pretending to be married to me..we don't live like a couple,in fact we don't live together,and if I don't wear my weeding ring,if I forgot which I don't do purposely,he gets all offended,I don't feel like we are a couple at all.I think my husband is living a double life behind my back where he would hide behind "me" pretending to be this goody goody guy while he plays himself behind the close doors with his porn and secret chats to women I presume..He flirts a lot I know, judging from what I have seen and he loves these kid girls like around 20 something or so...I am not sure but he makes me feel like we are this couple and really we are not..he would get sooo mad at me for not spending enough time with him,and last week I had like four days off from work and by Tuesday he got flustered and wanted me to go home,saying he was having a bad day because of work related issues..that's when it hits me that he is putting up a big show with me...he hides behind me...

lovehurts...

not good....

not good at all....these men are really something boy...

lovehurts...

Last fall, my husband, who

Last fall, my husband, who spends several days a week out of town helping his elderly parents, went for five weeks without asking me how I was doing.  Stuff like this goes on all the time, but he acts confused and hurt when I say that I don't know if our marriage is worth preserving.  He wants the appearance of a marriage but not the work of a marriage.

I had a colonoscopy this

I had a colonoscopy this morning. He still hasn't asked how it went. And he won't. I had my gf take me because I knew I couldn't rely on him.  His family asks me about my health (I have Crohn's disease). But he NEVER asks me. He did give me a hard time about not writing on the calendar that I had an appointment. He is the one with ADHD. Conversations are hardly initiated by him. Especially the hard ones. 

Sounds like...

Sounds like you are both in love with the same person -- him.