I’m exhausted

Non Wife of an ADHD husband. HSP. Me. 
I haven't expressed anger to my husband for many years. I realized I turned it " in" and it ruined me. I was desperately trying to not let resentment grow, tried to maintain emotional connection. I stopped nagging many year ago, then I had to stop requesting too as that was treated by him same. No criticism of him whatsoever. No imput on what he's talking about as it was irritating him. Actually looks like listening to me for more than a couple of sentences if annoying for him even if I'm plain agreed with him. Do I grew silent. And now am ready to fall apart into dust. I bit prematurely but I'm there