I need some help please

Hi everyone!

I was diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago. I’m in my late 20’s with 2 kids and a fiancé G. Pre diagnosis was rough on all of us as the drs could say was it was just depression. But after 2 attempts of suicide a mental health worker suggested getting checked out.

After getting diagnosed with ADHD and I started taking the meds I found I wasn’t as forgetful, the dark thoughts stopped and I realised I wasn’t useless anymore. The fighting stopped between my partner and I for a while and even tho I had pushed her away that many times, she stood by me and got me through the toughest times. 

What I need help with is working out how to not be so forgetful with things like leaving food out, forgetting to lock the door and forgetting conversations. I am trying my hardest to be the best partner, father and friend but the little things I feel I have no control of are really putting pressure on the family. I’m starting to feel useless again and  that nothing I do is good enough. I’ve tried to tell her all this but it’s not helping. I can’t go back to who I was before. For me to say it’s just my adhd isn’t good enough, I need to work out how to do better. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.