I no longer think my husband has ADD/ADHD. I think it is Aspergers.

There can be many parallels but I know that what's going on is not explained enough by ADD/ADHD. I have for some time believed that my mother has Aspergers; I am told this makes me 'Aspie friendly'. I must have signed up for this unconsciously...Now I think it is all over - the relationship - at my instigation, but it's still important to find the right framework in which he/we/our family can view this. I have been told that it's very important to find specialists who have particular experience with Asperger's (just as it is with ADD/ADHD). I wonder if others in this forum have experienced a similar overlap of symptoms between the two conditions and explored Aspergers...

My husband was recently told

My husband was recently told by a psychiatrist that he might have Asperger's.  Although I'm usually all over this stuff, I decided not to pursue research on the matter.  We have enough problems as it is.  Throwing yet another mental-health diagnosis into the mix is more than I can deal with right now.

What next, huh? A plague of

What next, huh? A plague of locusts? I could just feel how heavy this had to feel when you got the news. I wish I could give you a hug.

I can certainly understand that...

Which is perhaps why I've stayed with the ADD/ADHD diagnosis for the last year and a half. Note that it's me driving it all! And me who has to start and end things. I guess it's just too heartbreaking and defeating for me to feel that I never really grasped the tail of this thing. For us all to move forward, whatever form that takes, we must have a correct enough 'framework'. I guess it's inevitable that yet another 'process' is involved. I have had it with the processes. But here we go again, although I really do feel that we should live apart now, even if still involved. I wish you well with your processes...