I need to vent to someone who understands! We all know about the difficulties with finances when living with a spouse with ADHD. My spouse is self employed and I am in college. The 20th of the month is approaching - we have lots of bills due on the 20th - insurance, utilities, loan payments, etc. There is an upcoming work convention next weekend for my spouse and his business partner. 4 days away learning, 4 days with no income, plus the pending travel and hotel expenses. I remind my spouse of our approaching financial crunch time. Throw into the mix that he is very hesitant to hire an ADHD coach - because of tight finances.
So today I find out he is working 'for barter' for a $600 item. Himself, and two employees - who we have to pay - will be on the job. There is no other income on this job. I am annoyed that my spouse is buying something for himself for $600 - that is not a necessity - a firearm he wanted. I resent the impulsive barter - poor timing. It also irks me that he doesn't feel we have enough money to pay for an ADHD coach, but he will buy something - expensive and out of the blue - for himself. And he did not mention it to me. I heard the information about the job from an employee. . . .
Guess who handles the finances in our marriage. . . . yep, it is me.
Guess who has been working on not being his "mother?"
Yep, it is me.