I don't know which behaviors to attribute to ADHD and which are "just the way he is". I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, In the spring, he lied to me about smoking pot, and apologized for not being honest with me. I explained that lying hurt me, that I felt as if I weren't worthy of the truth.
Fast forward to two weeks ago. The signs were there. I know when something is off between us. I came over to his place, and there was an apology card/note, along with some flowers.
He admitted smoking again. Ha had been under alot of stress lately, and smoking calms him down. He said : I need to find a way to tell you, but I don't know how. I don't want to hurt you".
This morning, I found a vial on the coffee table, when I was cleaning. It looked like a tube from an eyeglass repair kit. On the tube was a sticker that said The Clear Blue Raz. I didn't know what it was so I Googled it.
Technically, he isn't smoking pot. He is dabbing, a term my sister used. I didn't know what it was. She says it can be dangerous, because it contains a heavy dose of THC. She said the percentage back when she used to use it was around 5-10% THC. Now, its upward of 90%. She said that people have had seizures, and passed out from using it. Even when purchasing it from a dispensary.
I am worried about him. I am upset about his lying but I don't know what to do. I've spent hours crying and upset.