At it again.

So what was an attempt to have a nice family outing at the club turned into pretty awful.  For whatever reason DH had an outburst with Son at the club. Son had no idea why or even really what DH said other than a nasty glare and the a few words that made no sense at all (like walking in on the end of a conversation (I was in Womens Locker Room changing). The car ride home was super quiet; I knew something was up but didn't know what. So we get home I head upstairs to empty out the  gym bags. Then I hear my DD begin to cry. Apparently, DH wanted the TV that DD had already been watching but he wanted to watch some sporting event.  We have 2 other TVs but he HAS to have the same one ALL the time and of course its what HE wants to watch). So he takes the remote right out of her hand and moves her from the chair and tells her to go watch TV somewhere else.

All of us are just tired of DH crap.  It is amazing how he has managed to seclude himself from everyone. In a house full of people - he is alone. 

Should be interesting how this weekend goes - the kids and I are leaving for the long weekend. Hope he enjoys "his time" - since he seems to want to be alone, well now he's got it.

I am so disappointed in how DH is behaving. I guess this is just him cycling; which seems to be picking up in intensity :( And still no indiciation that he is ready for any kind of help :(

sullygrl's picture

I am so sorry to hear

That just sucks.  To just lash out at the kids like that is not fair. Probably your son was just being a kid. Sounds like DH (doesn't that stand for "dear husband"? can we do NSDH - "Not-so-dear Husband?") is just being a bully. Wonder how he would enjoy being yelled at for no reason and then swiping the remote out of his hand?

Enjoy your time away, enjoy your kids. Enjoy a break from the crazy. Take care of you, talk to the kids as much as possible about the fact that it isn't personal, that it is DH issues and NOT theirs. Sending hugs your way, not a good way to have a "family" outing at all. Maybe not invite him from now on?

Love the NSDH!  My DS is a

Love the NSDH!  My DS is a very mature 13 yo and honestly he takes more responsibilty then NSDH ever did!  How many gym bags did NSDH have - zero! DS had both gym bags. This is the story of NSDH - he sits and waits for everyone else (irritated that it takes you so long to get ready) but never helps carry out bags (when leaving on trips) carry in groceries, ect. But he will sit and watch YOU do it all. When the kids were little; there was the car seat to carry with baby, diaper bag and purse - yep and NSDH walking a mile ahead holding the car keys and nothing else. 

Yeah, I think he does act like a bully at times - that's the way he treated me all last summer. 

Things are going to improve one way or another - myself and my kids are not going to live like this.  NSDH will need to be the one to adjust now.

Thanks for your reply and hugs - they are so needed!