I have a relationship with a man with ADHD that recently ended. I love him so much. I am heartbroken that it ended, but without counseling, we were at an impasse. It had become less than functional. We were not married, but I believed it was serious. He was the only man I've ever considered marrying, but maybe I was just confusing my hopes with what was real. I am so confused. His actions never really matched up to his words. ADHD, or was he just not that into me? I am very generous and supportive and can often give "too much" without realizing and perhaps be taken for granted. I believed he loved me back because I just felt it. He repeatedly ignored my needs even when I expressed directly. I asked for one "date night" a month. ADHD procrastinates, and we both have children so we did have lots of family time. We ended up on 3 dates in a year. It mattered. He would get angry if I asked. Communication was a problem, like one time I asked if he was losing interest and he blew up. Did I hit a nerve, or is it ADHD? We also never had sex. We are both religious, but it was really totally non physical. It was weird that he never even tried. Right now I feel betrayed, played, and kind of used. He suggested counseling, and 3 months went by and I mistakenly let things pile up waiting for it. He had specific criteria for a counselor, so he was going to find one. When I suggested it, he got mad and ended the relationship instead of choosing to work on it. Was he just not that into me? Any insight?