It's not me, it's you!

I am new to this forum...and i have just realized my husband wasnt kidding when he told me he has adhd. I love him and I want to grow old with him...but if he doesnt do something about his adhd, i will be forced to leave. We have been married for five years, together for seven. We have a four year old and a newborn. We both have college degrees, a mortgage, both work professional jobs....and we have hopes and dreams. The downfall is I sticking to our goals...and how we initially plan to achieve them. tbc...