Just about had it.

Hi, 

I'm married to a wonderful man who was diagnosed about 4 years after we were married with ADHD.  His mother still don't want to believe that he has this.  

I'm struggling right now.  He's at it again. I just received a phone call from him stating that he doesn't "feel right" about his current job. UGh!! This happens about 3 or 4 times a year.  This current job is a really good paying job and we have insurance through them too.  But he's on the "I want a new Job" roll again.  We have just gotten caught up on our bills, got out of foreclosure, and finally have a little bit of money in the bank.  And now it's all going to go down the toliet.

After 18 years of marriage you would think that I would be use to this. But I'm tired of the quarterly announcement that he wants to be an astronaut, banker, pastor, teacher, social worker,....or what ever else he's into at that moment.

Does anyone else have this issue with the ones they love?

 

The scary thing is...I'm not

The scary thing is...I'm not the one with ADD and yet I want to change jobs constantly. I have a year to two year expiration period. The longest I've ever been in a job is just shy of three years and that was only because it took me a while to find another job.

And on that subject, provided that he stays in his current job while he searches for a new job that at least has equal pay and benefits, what's the harm? He's obviously looking for stimulation. Just set some ground rules with him and see what happens. He may not be able to go anywhere. Bottom line: he has to provide for your family, therefore he can't quit until he finds another job. Some period have a desire to do many things in their lives, I don't think limiting them solves anything.

 

Good luck!

I'm with you

I'm with you dazedandconfused.  Non-ADHD, longest job abt 4 yrs, self-employment is great because it gives me endless variety.  I don't have any idea what I want to do when I grow up.

On the other hand, ADHD husband has been 12 yrs in his current job and stayed in his first job after university for 10 yrs.

So unless he does regularly quit, then I think I would just ignore him in the nicest possible way.