Just need to vent.

So, my boyfriend's sister is getting married in May.  The last few days I've been trying to find a dress to wear and had complained multiple time to my boyfriend about all the restrictions there are in general as wedding guests: no white, no black, no red, not similar to the bridesmaid's dresses in both cut or color, not too short, not long etc. etc.  I especially made a point of not wanting to accidentally wear the same color as the bridesmaids.  Yesterday, I asked him to text his mom and ask her what color the bridesmaids dresses were before I made my final purchase and this is literally what her wrote her:

"Hi mom.  Caroline wants to know what color the bridesmaids dresses are so she can find one to match.  Do you have a swatch or a color sample?" (I never asked him to ask for a sample, like the woman doesn't have enough to do already without worrying about me).

To which, she rightly wrote back: "why does she want to match?!'

Are you freaking kidding me?!??!  The problem is that his mom is REALLY gossipy and also has ADHD so when he wrote her back to correct his mistake and say that I didn't want to match she misread it again and called up everyone she knows and complained about how weird I am for wanting to match the bridesmaids dresses.  Unbelievable.  The communication problems that arise from them both having ADHD are generally compounding as you can see.  I'm so embarrassed.  So, my efforts to allay a fear that I had of making a faux pas were turned completely on their head and ended up causing the problem I intended to avoid.  I would have contacted her directly but we're not on the best of terms which, also makes this even worse.