Learned helplessness

 I am wondering if this is an ADD trait. I am constantly being asked to do things for DH that I feel a 56 year old man should be able to do for himself. He came to me last night with pill bottles in his hands. Couldn't figure out how much Advil to take. If I had told him to read the label he would have a screaming fit at me. I know we shouldn' be in a parent child dynamic  but what to do if the ADD spouse seems to want it this way. He cannot seem to read a map or a measuring tape either. He relys on me a lot but has the attitude that I do nothing for him. Does anyone else deal with this?