This is the first time I've ever written in a forum about this.
I've read through hundreds of the stories here and felt like I've had read about my life for the last 10 years.
The last two days I have driven around town looking for an apartment for my son and I to move into because I (and my anxiety) can no longer take living with my ADD husband. He is undiagnosed but if he does not have ADD/ADHD...then he must have some high functioning autism. I'm not quick to "internet diagnose"...but the stories on this forum are wayyyyyy too familiar.
My problem...like other stories I have read...is that while I am desperate to get out of this miserable situation....we have a young son. And the thought of him staying with someone who is incapable of taking care of himself scares me to death. He is 6 years old and I have RARELY left him in the care of his father....which is often laughed at by people who don't understand. But if you are parenting with someone who is like this...you understand.
My question is....has anyone been able to divorce and ask for primary custody because of the other spouse having ADD/ADHD? As much as I would love to flee from this nightmare....I would never do anything that could put my child in a bad situation. And I don't mean that he is abusive....he just does not have any common sense when it comes to taking care of people or things....and barely himself.
And the second part....if you decided to stay because you could not see your partner caring for your children safely/adequately......how did you cope?
I'm seriously in just "survival mode" now....which I never in a million years thought my life would be. My hindsight is so crystal clear with this person...it's depressing.