We have had a total breakdown of communication here. The most seemingly benign topics can lead to a fight. We are both extremely defensive. I freely admit this about myself. Everything I say is met with the opposite scenario. No empathy for my point of view...ever. Makes me feel unimportant and like what I think doesn't matter. If I voice that I feel that way in any way, shape or form it leads to his rage. Every. Single. Time. I do not rage. If I showed the amount of anger that he did, I can't imagine his reaction. Maybe I should try it. Couldn't be much worse than our current communication pattern.