Literally Feel Insane

We have had a total breakdown of communication here.  The most seemingly benign topics can lead to a fight.  We are both extremely defensive.  I freely admit this about myself.  Everything I say is met with the opposite scenario.  No empathy for my point of view...ever.  Makes me feel unimportant and like what I think doesn't matter.  If I voice that I feel that way in any way, shape or form it leads to his rage.  Every. Single. Time.  I do not rage.  If I showed the amount of anger that he did, I can't imagine his reaction.  Maybe I should try it.  Couldn't be much worse than our current communication pattern.