Hi all

Having been married for 20 years, 2 teenage kids my husband has recently been diagnosed with ADHD.  This put a lifetime of experiences with him into perspective. And it has put a light on my loneliness.  Reading lots of the posts here I identify and empathize with so many experiences.  

Have had counseling and have considered my options including leaving.  I love him but I hate how he hurts me.  He has all the classic symptoms described here by many other people in posts.   The kids are aware and mostly I have protected them and taken the brunt of his moods etc.  I am at the point where I am exhausted and hurt.  He is getting counseling and taking medication and I guess we are trying to examine what is left to rebuild.  It is hard to talk to him as he gets very defensive and reactionary although it is improving.

What I want to know is how I can support and look after myself and fill the holes in heart.  

Any advice would be greatly appreciated .....