Losing Hope

I have ADHD and my father has ADHD. I was told I had ADHD when I was in high school but thought that just meant that I would have a hard time finishing tasks. I have been married for 10 years and my wife is about to leave me. We have 3 children together and I haven't been able to figure out what my problem is. It just seems like I can't get things done sometimes and I can't remember to get everything done I need to around the house even if I write it down in a little notebook I carry around with me. I found this website 2 days ago and could not believe the stories that I was reading and how they are almost exactly the same as what I am going through right now. I love my wife but I'm pretty sure she hates me at this point. I haven't talked to her about my ADHD and how that may be the reason I have been such a failure in this marriage but I'm afraid that she will just tell me it's another excuse. I had no idea what a toll ADHD could take on a marriage, I thought I was just failing. I don't blame her for being upset and I honestly don't know what else to say because I don't want it to sound like I'm blaming everything on my ADHD and that I had no part in it. I have failed extensively in this marriage and it might be better for her to just leave and find someone that doesn't have this issue but I do love her and don't want her to leave. I want to change but I'm afraid it might be too late. I guess I'm kind of just rambling and I don't really know what I'm hoping to get out of this. I just needed to put it somewhere because I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to.