Losing hope, fast

I have been diagnosed with ADHD since 2005. I have been through one marriage and I am within hours of my second wife walking out. I am in a hyper stressful job, issues with x wife, varying degrees of these issues I am trying to address: Poor persistence towards tasks/goals Failing to plan ahead or anticipate future consequences Poor time management Poor emotional self control Impulsive decision making Disorganization Problems keeping promises and commitments to others Difficulty keeping track of several things at once and seeing them to completion Inability to stop an ongoing enjoyable activity to shift to a more important or urgent task Depending on others for maintaining order or direction Underachievement in school or work Loss of jobs/impaired performance Unsatisfactory relationships Poor money management Trouble organizing household & raising my daughter I have been to marriage counseling, several therapists (though the latest one I have I have made the most progress). My second wife feels as if I deceived her. I told her very early on in our relationship that I had ADHD and was on medication for it. I am responsible for putting together all the shopping lists, bills to be paid, daily activity reports to review with her, managing my second home, doing most of the driving, doing most of the chores at the first home. I feel as if my second wife has just given up. I had anger issues my entire life (bad childhood) until about three months ago when I was able to let go. Since doing so my world has been upside down with sadness and pain. I see the damage I have caused but cannot begin to see my way out of it. I have a VERY demanding job in finance and can't even begin to pause to gather my thoughts, make a plan, and begin to execute. Something is really off and I am scared I will lose the people I care about most, my wife and daughter from my first marriage. My second wife calls me useless in front of my daughter and her nieces and it breaks my heart. My second wife tells me she wants me to change, won't make a list of what change means. My wife said she won't even have kids with me as she feels I am not a real man. WTF. I am losing hope fast, hopefully my therapist visit tomorrow can help. Any thoughts out there?