I am new to this community, and frankly pretty new with dealing with ADHD. My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADHD after being misdiagnosed (and medicated) for depression. This caused many issues however he is on medication now and was doing well.
There has been a lot of trauma and loss in his life, especially recently and it has all seem to come to a head over the last 12 months (mainly due to the loss he has experienced).
I have found that since his new medication has started, he was doing much better, however has now started using marijuana quite a bit, (which really concerns me as he had an addiction to this earlier in our relationship which he overcame) and I feel this is increasing his ADHD symptoms, more specifically motivation to go to work, memory loss and shortness of temper.
I guess I am just wondering if anyone else has experienced this in their relationship and how they have overcome this.
We have really been put through the ringer the last 12 months and I am just at my wits end on how we can overcome this and actually move forward in our lives instead of screwing them up more by possibly not being able to pay our bills or him loosing his job.
Thank you :)
In my relationship...
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
In my relationship with my fiance, marijuana has been a point of contention.
My fiance is an addict, who used/abused cocaine when he was younger. He admitted to me that he "Has a problem with substances". Whe we first started dating he told me about the addiction to cocaine that almost killed him, and made it sound like his marijuana use was a thing of the past. (I've never used drugs, but I do drink alcohol occasionally.)
He has some issues with his back that have been going on for several years. It does not bother him everyday, but sometimes he has a flare up and and self medicates with marijuana to ease the pain. I don't have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with is that he gets used to that high/stoned feeling and likes it, and continues to smoke it for months after the pain has subsided, and in his own words "spends too much money on it". It doesn't help that it is now legal recreationally in our state, and he works in a city surrounded by dispensaries. His co workers go out on their breaks to smoke it, then return to work. I don't like being around him when he is on it. I haven't seen any increase in ADHD behaviors, but he has embarrassed me in public before. There has been no increase in anger, and he has been working 40 hours a week in the same job for the last 7 years.
He can no longer smoke it, because he had a heart attack a month ago, and the doctor does not want him smoking anything. It will damage his heart ( and lungs ) even more. So I'm happy about that. He has switched to edibles. I think he uses it as a stress reliever, which is not entirely a good thing, given his history of addiction and his past thrill seeking behavior.
Counselling could help for both of you.
Submitted by anteight on
This is interesting. I believe your comment on my recent post was something about continuing to be an enabler???? You left a marriage untwined with adhd leave an insensitive comment when I was trying to have hope and now you're in it again? I'm sorry please don't throw stones here.
Submitted by c ur self on
The ringer of life!....Life can overwhelm us (humans) much of the time...But we push on, and find ourselves reaching out for our own self helps to get through it....Many of these as you know are just bad for us....Your husband sounds like he could use some love passed his way...At this point in his life, that love may just be a wise friend he will listen too....But most of us men (like myself) find it hard to open up about our pain and weakness's....I suggest that maybe a few Counseling sessions could be a good thing for him, and maybe for both of you at some point....
I will pray for him now....
Thank you C,
Submitted by Moz on
Thank you C,
Yes he has recently started counceilling and this appears to be helping when he can get a session. Lots to work through for him, and I think me now too given what we have been through in the last 12 months.
Thank you for your kind words and support