Mending a Marriage when both husband & wife have ADD

My husband and I have both been diagnosed with ADD in the last few years.  I feel like he does not do his share of household chores.  He doesn't get home until 7:30 or 8:00 at night.  I think he chooses not to come home earlier, because he knows I will have something to complain about.  He will do the evening dishes and feel like he has done his part.  I feel like I am constantly asking him to do certain jobs, but yet he will not do them. Of course having ADD myself, I have my own difficulty organizing papers around the house, which he complains about.  I love my husband and he says he loves me, but I feel like this marriage is very one-sided.  My husband is very kind hearted and he bends over backwards to please his employees and friends, yet I do not get that same attention.  I am feeling very frustrated.  We have been to marriage counseling, but there have not been any positive changes in our marriage.  My husband will say he sees my side of it, but he will not make any effort to take on more responsibility.  We have been married for 25 years, but I don't know how much longer I can be in this relationship the way it is.  I am exhausted and stressed out.  Is there any hope for us?