Have you every noticed that your ADHD spouse will only laugh in social situations if they are the joke teller? My DH actually glares at others when a joke is told and the group laughs.
And his jokes never make sense in the situation and just unsettle everyone. He can't tell the difference between real laughter and fake uncomfortable laughter.
This only happens around groups that are not in the core circle. With family he is fine, people we have known for years he is fine, but new groups he just tries to upset everyone.
Does the ADHD mind not want to make new friends? I have been told he does this when I am not in the group-so it is not a competition with me.