I went to a therapist a couple of years ago, and then stopped. Since then, H has regularly complained that I need to return (to work on "my" issues...lol). One reason I stopped going was because my T didn't feel that there was anything wrong with me, except that I needed TO DO LESS for my H! (which of course, he wouldn't like to have happen!!)
Anyway....so I started going back to that same T. I do NOT discuss with my H what the T and I talk about. However, that hasn't stopped H from having meltdowns around the time of my T visits. Two days ago, I casually mentioned to H that an order was being delivered for my business. A text had popped up on my phone, notifying me of the delivery and I just casually said, "oh, the X is being delivered today." (no biggie, right) This is a topic that should NOT evoke any kind of negative response. As an aside....There had been NO DISCUSSIONS about my upcoming T meeting at all.
But suddenly H says, "oh, of course you haven't told your T about how good I am about letting you order what you want." (the business pays for it, not H) So, obviously, my upcoming visit had been "in his head" for awhile and he suddenly "found a way" to weasel it into a conversation in a negative way.
I told him not to assume what I have or haven't said to my T. He got angry and has been angry ever since (so for two days)