Submitted by AdeleS6845 on 04/08/2019.
Is that more people with ADHD/ADD would read and post on these forums on this site.
I read some of the posts to my BF yesterday, and he thinks some of the behavior that ADHD partners exhibit is ridiculous, and in his mind have nothing to do with ADHD. Perhaps his ADHD is not severe, as I am sure there are varying levels of ADHD. Once he learned strategies and coping mechanisms from his behavioral therapist, he found that his life was made easier through routines and schedules.
That said, it would be very helpful to have input from more than a few men and women with ADHD. Being that this is my first relationship with a man with ADHD, I don't know which behaviors are ADHD related and which are not.
I think it would be helpful
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I think it would be helpful for more folks with ADHD to post here, too. However, I don't think that will provide a full solution to determining what is ADHD-related behavior and what is not. I say that because I disagree with the theory that everyone with ADHD exhibits the same symptoms and behaves in the same way.
I agree that not everyone
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
I agree that not everyone with ADHD exhibits the same symptoms and behaves in the same way. I have read many of the posts here, and I see very little similarities in behavior between the ADHD partners described here, and my boyfriend. Then again, there are varying degrees of ADHD, just as there are varying degrees of everything else.
Adele, many of us here
Submitted by dedelight4 on
Adele, many of us here that post regularly are ones whose spouses refuse to deal with their ADHD. They take pills for it, but won't learn anything else. This might be one of the reasons you're seeing different actions written here. I too wish more folks with ADH D would post here. And, I also would like to see more about ADH D denial, and why do many choose to stay in denial.
Obviously there's much more for all of us to learn, and we learn a great deal here, as well as get to talk to others who share similar stories. Wishing you well. Dede
I can see why he says that....And you are right also.....
Submitted by c ur self on
What gets discussed most on this site is, men and women who excuse their intrusive living, abusive living and sinful living....(Selfish people who only care about themselves and their good times)....The posters who have a mate w/ add/adhd are usually here for one reason....There spouse is in denial of what their lives are like, and how they effect their mate and others......There are many many people around the world who deal with a fast mind, who's spouse watch's them daily manage their lives well....(not in denial, not into blame, and does the work in the marriage)
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Just wondering
Submitted by daizzebelle on
If anyone here with ADD has gone to an executive function coach and learned a new system. If so are you still using it? If not why did you stop?
Communication
Submitted by anteight on
People with add are not all alike. Some are more severe than others and some have additional issues such as emotion control problems anxiety and depression. But I would say that it could seem less severe as he’s you’re bf and husband. Most people here would agree that when dating their so was completely different
BF vs Husband.
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
We are not married yet, but my Fiancee addressed his ADHD and the symptoms/behavior that goes along with it years before I met him.
In his words, he was tired of his life being a mess. He went to a behavioral therapist who helped him to become more organized, and find a routine that worked for him. He had been divorced for 10 years when we met, and other than the hyper focus and his occasionally blurting things out, I don't see much difference between him and other men that I've dated behavior wise.
Although we are not married, I have been staying at his house every other week because my ex husband and I have split custody of our 16 year old daughter. My fiancee and I have been doing this for the last 3 1/2 years. I know its not the same as living with him 365 days a year, but I believe I have a good idea what I'm getting myself into.
I agree with you
Submitted by lolaguzman on
I agree, I’ve told my husband that he need to start looking for help or at least reading it find ways to help him. But, he rarely checks anything on his own. If he does he doesn’t even tell me so that we can discuss it as a couple. He knows I write here but he's not the least interest in reading anything here. He would read it if I send him a screenshot or if I tell him about it. It's like he's not internalizing that this is important.