I have now proven beyond doubt that the problems in my marriage and home are far more than my wife's ADHD. She came from an abusive family and over the last year has radically increased contact with them. The result is that she is now 100% emotionally abusive and conflict seeking in our home.
I need advice from people who have successfully separated and divorced their ADHD spouses. I need to know what to prepare for, what to expect, and how to do this in the least destructive way possible. For example:
- Are there unusual complications from divorcing an ADHD spouse?
- Is her ADHD diagnosis going to be used against me and to her benefit in the legal proceedings?
- Is there anything I can do to prepare, such as documentation, to make sure I don't get the short end of the stick?
I need help devising both short and long term plans.