I am new to the forum and feel a huge sigh of relief, as I can relate to so much being shared. My husband has ADHD and was diagnosed in childhood, he is in his late forty’s now and stopped taking his med’s about 20 years ago, the reason being is because he didn’t want to remain in a zombie state all the time.
We will be married for two years in August. This past weekend was one of his angry weekends where everything would just set him off. It pretty much ended with I hate my life, it is boring and we should have never gotten married. Very hurtful considering that I love him. The next night there was a documentary on ADHD and that what had me going on the internet to search and find out more about ADHD and that is how I ended up here on this website.
My husband keeps telling me to let him know when I feel overwhelmed and need a break from him for a few days, as he has no problem leaving and will come back when I tell him too. This pattern of thinking must have come from his previous marriage, as I have no intention of doing this to us. Then last night when I came home from work he told me that he needed a change of environment and that when he pick’s up his pay on Friday he is going to spend a few day’s with his brother. We live in the city and his brother lives in a rural area in a real small town with a population of 286 about a 6 hour drive away.
My husband decided that he no longer wants to work for his current employer as he felt he was being bullied and had quite on Sunday night. He has only worked for this guy for about two weeks and was unemployed for 10 months before this. Financially I am having a hard time to keep on top of all our bills and expenses, so it’s hard for me to understand why he would take his money and spend it on the gas and other things he will buy and do while he is with his brother. I under stand now that the employment and anger is probably related to the ADHD, but what about the need to just get up and go is that also part of it? Would it help my husband and his ADHD to go away for a couple days should I help support him in this.
Any thought’s or insight on this would be appreciated.