Basically I am in need of some basic information as well as some advice from people with experiance in dealing with a spouse who has ADD. Any advice or tips you can give me will be greatly aprechiated.
Me and my fiance are both 21 years of age. We became an item when we were 16. We met online, and we are from two different countries. He lived in America and I lived in Norway. We got engaged about 6 months ago. I moved to America from Norway summer of 2008 and started college. We have been living together since then. My fiance was talking about getting a job and eventually starting college while I was studying, but it did not happen. I could no longer study in America because of how expencive it is. I told him that I was going back to Norway to study, because there college is free and we can only focus on our rent. My fiance agreed to come and live with me in Norway and get married there. Our current situation is that we are waiting for my passport to be sent back to me ( USCIS has it, a non relevent story) so that we can travel over to Norway.
His mentallity throughout our relationship has been that he is not good enough for me, that I should not be with him, that he is dragging me down with him, that he can't get anything right, that he is a bum, etc.
His progress in life has been minimal, but I know how hard it is for him and I don't expect massive changes in a week or even a year. He has had progress however, but he usually doesn't keep his successes in mind for very long and he needs to be reminded, but when I do he'll find a way to turn it around and make it something negative about himself. I have had a lot of time to talk to his mother, who can see a drastic change in him. She says that from what he was like before me and him were an item to what he is like now, he has changed dramatically. I have learned so many things from her, but I still need more information about ADD.
I want to be as prepared as I can possibly be, and I want to be there for him as much as a possibly can. He is going to need me now more than ever, because he will be in a new country with a clean slate. I allready had a taste of reality when I left Norway and came to America, and it was hard for me. This trip over to Norway will be his taste of reality and I know that it is going to be that much harder for him.
What I am hoping to achieve is for him to find a job, to make a friend or two and to get in better shape, all od which are things that he talks about wanting to do in life, I would like to see them completed.
He is so extremely intelligent and so loving and caring. He knows that he has ADD and he battles with it every single day. If I could see him happy it would mean everything in the world to me.
Please let me know if you have come out of an experiance with knowledge you think would be benificial to me. If you have basic information about ADD that you would like to share that is great too.
I'm a sponge, I will absorb all the knowledge you are willing to give me :)