My husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD at age 62. He grew up feeling something was different and adjusted. We have been married 5 years and it was a wonderful dating and "in love" time. And as the books say, then things become real, not so focused on the in-love and we approached the normal life. This diagnoses has helped us to see and understand some things, but it is very new and scary to me. I have searched some counseling help for me in our area but don't seem to be getting anywhere - lots of help for him though. We have discovered the medication has helped him put clarity in his day and given him a sense of control. Although it does not change who he is, he doesn't seem to be able to see things differently so we can work towards a calmer and better relationship. I hear him saying this is the way he is and we have to adjust to that. I want to know where I come into this scenario and what adjustment "we" make for that. I have adjusted and do many things differently now, for him, and I concentrate all day to approach things in a way can manage. I know he loves me deeply and is open to doing things to make this better. That said, he has to focus so hard on his day-to-day things and feels so much pressure "from himself" to complete things that he doesn't have or make time to work on things for us. How do I get this moving forward? I would like some help in how to make this better for both of US and not just adjusting to his life while mine is in frustration and a sense of loss. Thanks
Submitted by question.answer on 03/14/2012.