New member here, just thought I would say hello...

Hi.  My name is Scott and I am a new member of these forums.  I am 32 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD about 6 years ago.  

I just wanted to take a moment to introduce myself and communicate that I am open to answering questions and actively participating with all of you.  I have the same or similiar struggles that others have and I have good days and bad days but I am determined not to let these challenges define a single aspect of who and what I can be.  I welcome your advice and opinions and hope that I can share some of my own.

I look forward to sharing.

Regards,

Scott

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frustration with ADD spouse

I can't remember how I even found this site, but it is a life saver for me.  I have been married to an ADD spouse for 12 years.  we dated for three before marriage. I am at the end of my rope tonite. my husband is out of work for the third time in a year.  last summer he quit a job he had for 7 yrs because the supervisor shove another employee and  had made threats against others.  I don't blame him for quitting. he had put up with so much junk over the years the district manager did nothing about much of it.  it was four months befroe he got another job.  he loved this job but was laid off this February.  besides ADD he has a learning disability.  he is able to write but for him to fill out a job application on his own would take eternity.  he can only do basic entry level work such as janitorial or dishwashing.  he can't even get hired for that because people look at him from the outside and judge him as too dumb to do the job.  he received two rejection letters this week and has labeled himself a loser. 

I am tired because I feel like I have to do every thing "non-fun" too sometimes.  I pay the bills, clean the house if any cleaning is to be done. I have to plan everything.  while he has been off work all he does is watch TV.  he is to start volunteering this week, but that doesn't pay the bills.

i need options.  my only relative is shutting me out right now. my husbands family does not live near us and they don't  understand what I go thru anyway.

I am just glad to have this site for venting and hopefully some understanding. thanks