New to this site but desperate for help!

My husband and I have been married for only 3 and a half years- I am 27 and he is 28. I knew he had ADHD when I met him because he talked about how it affected him at school. I never saw any signs of it while we were dating so I thought it was something he grew out of. I was wrong, over the last two years I feel like we have been on a down hill spiral.

This morning we had the worst fight we have ever had. I ended up throwing a dish and knocking everything off the counter. I have never been an angry person. I feel like I am trapped and that escalating my anger is the only way to get my husband's attention. We both decided that something has to change or our marriage will end.



1) I have become an angry person. I blame him for making me this way. I know no one makes someone do or be something but this is how I feel today and I do not know how to change it.

2) We went to a counselor and bought books on ADHD. I have read the books and looked into the information given to us by the counselor, my husband has not even picked up the books or gone through the information that was given to us. He says he does not have time in his day but I feel he has to make time for our marriage.

3) We fight over nonsense. I try to choose not to get angry but I feel like we both push each others buttons and instead of choosing to look past the small issue we create bigger issues.

4) I am sick of being disappointed. I am sick of broken commitments.

I literally feel like I am going crazy. I feel very hopeless and I am not sure what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.