Hello. First time here. I have been married for 11 years but the last four have been really rocky. I was deployed from 2008-2009. When I returned I felt more lonely and isolated. Wife would constantly spending less time with me and more time with friends. I told her I wanted to go to Vegas for years and when I returned she went with her friends. She constantly says I am angry and she is tired of me complaining about her lateness, money, intimacy , and not cleaning. We were in. Counseling which didn't work. She had never told me or the counselor about the ADHD until the counselor gave up. All these years I was clueless. Now she is on meds but I feel constantly ignored and left out. She is always hanging out and i am sure her friends dont know or understand about her adhd. How do I get her to see she is hurting me?