Not taking meds

This seminar is helping us a lot as long as my ADHD spouse takes the prescribed ADHD meds. When the meds are skipped, this is when the coursework is most relevant and when my spouse is least likely to be open to it. The catch 22s of ADHD drive me up a wall.... the person who is least likely to remember to take meds is the one who most needs to take them. 

I am trying not to parent and to simply say, "When you don't take your meds, this is what it's like for me." 

Lots of anger; thankful for meds.

Does this happen to anyone? Advice?