I've read the majority of the book, but it looks like the bookmark is on page 165 and step 4 communication. ADD has kept me from finishing the book, even though I'm in a very serious situation. My wife's last blow up got my attention enough to try something, so I Googled and found a pretty good book. Notice how I say "pretty good" as I'm pretty much incapable of saying anything is "great." This goes to an entire 18 year marriage and 21 year relationship. I will admit I found the book quite humorous as it described my married life very well. I have hope, but the wife is ANGRY and has proceeded to numb without hope. We have 2 children and they are the reason she is coming home after work. We made a deal 10 years ago that I was going to stay home with the kids, but that only doubled her work load as we could no longer afford a gardener or a once a week maid. I was going to pickup the slack and the majority of you all know what happens to the ADD Dad. Yes, I thought I was a great husband and father picking up the kids from school and making home cooked meals the majority of weeknights while devoting large amounts of computer time to Evercrack (EQ is an online fantasy world that appeals to the ADD brain with constant rewards). She on the other hand still did the shopping, dish washing, kids appointments, kids homework, laundry, weekend cooking, and the majority of the gardening while working 40+ hours a week. I've been told by her, I'm a "know it all" (she sees this as a negative), but I don't think I am. I don't express myself in terms of "my opinion" according to her, but more in a "my way or the highway". I don't see myself that way, but I now realize now my wife is right about a lot of stuff. My son has diagnosed ADD and is on prescribed medication, but is off meds for the summer to gain some weight. For legal reasons I did not take his medication for two weeks after the wife's blow up, but came to understand my wife's anger, frustration and numbness all these years all on my own. My lack of support for my wife in the past is scary sad and points to her true sainthood. Now I need to get my wife interested in reading the book, to help relieve her anger and maybe start repairing that which I'm so close to loosing. I have an ADD effected marriage.