Ok so many of you may find this humorous, crazy or just unbelievable but I find it utterly confusing!! My husband usually shaves his head, which I hate because I love it when its a bit longer (like the shortest clipper attachment, before bald). So last night he tells me he is going to go and shave his head and take a shower..fine whatever do what ya gotta do. Really I couldn't figure out why he was telling me, well when he came out he had only shaved the bottom half of his head and looked like he had a mushroom on top of his head. I actually laughed and told him to go finish shaving his head, because I thought he did it as a joke, because he was in a really good mood yesterday. Then when he told me he was gonna leave the stuff on top I asked him if he wanted me to get it with the longer clippers cause the sides were sticking out. Well it turns out he has decided to grow back his late 90's hair, that he still had in 2006....shaved halfway up his head and then grow out the top longer (like to his ears). I still thought he was kidding and told him that that hair cut looked dumb when I met him and it wasn't going to look any better now. Turns out he wasn't kidding....and when I asked him how long he was going to keep it like that he told me "until you cut your hair and dye it blond". A little background he hates my long hair (comes to the middle of my back) and wants me blond. Unfortunately I look like a Umppa Loompa with short hair (really it looks horrible), I cut it about 4 years ago and immediately regretted it. He found pics of me blond (I was naturally a strawberry blond until I became very sick and the medications they had to give me darkened my hair) and when I was making $40000 a year it was no big deal to get it dyed every two weeks. But now that I make minimum wage, I cant just blow $240 a month on my hair! When I told him that wasn't going to happen, I looked dumb with short hair and didn't have the money to be blond, he told me I didn't need to "have it done, just dump some peroxide on it". At home coloring turns my hair orange because of the red in it, I can only imagine what peroxide would do!! He ended the conversation with "fine if you wont look like I want you to then I am going to look like whatever I want".
Really I could care less if he wants to look like a bit dumb, but he is trying to finish college and get a job in communications/broadcasting. No one is going to take him seriously or hire him if he looks like a 1990's reject. I tried explaining that he needed to look professional to get a job, but his comeback was that if they didn't like what he looked like he didn't want to work for them....argggggggg
I honestly wonder if this is his response to me stepping back and letting go.....like hes trying to get my attention. Or I could be wrong and looking way to far into it....either way, obviously I didn't handle this the way I should have. Even if I did think he was just joking around.......any suggestions??? I'm open to any and all!