Here we go. I'm still newly married (I guess), just over one year. My husband is a good man, but COMPLETELY inattentive when he wants to be. This site has made me step back and wonder, for the first time in a little while, if it's just the ADD but good Lord I am about to lose it! We work complete opposite schedules, so on Friday and Saturday nights, I generally stay up as long as it takes to wait for him. Last night, I passed out on the couch while he was out on his "new adventure". He's building a blind in a tree right now, with his brother, so last night he decided to go outside (yes, after midnight!) and play in his tree. So, I was out like a light when he got in. I just couldn't stay up anymore. So I get up today, and soon after, he's off to work. I talked to him once tonight for 3 minutes, and he used to call me all the time. He got home and I got a half kiss, a distant hug, and some flowers. :) I DID get flowers. Then he laid on the floor for 5 full minutes to play with our puppy. Off to the computer. He did his Fantasy league thing or whatnot for oh, I'd say at least 30 minutes. Then, he gets done, says he's tired, and he's ready to go to bed! HELLO!!! Am I the ONLY one who sees something very wrong with this picture? I considered getting MLB tattooed on my forehead, but realizing how painful that may be, I considered laying on the floor and looking up at him with my big blue eyes, and seeing if it worked for me like it does for the dog. But he's sooo tired. I bite my lip. Off to the bathroom he goes, and 10 minutes later, he's still standing in front of the mirror picking at his face. He has almost PERFECT skin, which one week a month (if you catch my drift) really makes me ill - because he picks at it all the time. So - we have 5 minutes with the dog, 20 - 30 with the computer, 10 on himself (and counting) and 2 on me. Then when I was talking to him tonight, I had to ask three times "did you hear me?" because I got no acknowledgement. Then he has the gonads to look at me like I'm getting on his nerves. This is not the first time. When we were dating, he was all about me. We spent time together and had fun together, and now I can't get him to take his face out of that STUPID computer. I don't know whether I should cry, or cut my legs off. Maybe if I lose my feet, I'll be like a shiny new penny again. Yep - I can understand anger, resentment and frustration. Any advice???
Submitted by bersa_lady on 09/14/2008.