Once again, the needs of the spouse come last

I set up an intake session at a university psychology clinic for my husband. Since he's lost his job, he lost his insurance and we can't afford to pay privately for his meds and counseling.

In spite of my request for marriage counseling, they wanted to focus on him, his depression, his ADHD (I'm glad somebody wants to, really), etc. I'm just supposed to suck up the loss of my home due to his ADHD causing him to lose another job, the lack of contribution around the house, the fact that I have to pack up and move to another city, etc. without any help from them (or him) while they focus on him.

Is there ever a time when the non-ADHD spouse is considered important?