I live in a state of perpetual anger, sadness, and loneliness and find this site frustrating. Why? Because the information though very good and right on the mark, however it is useless in this household. It doesn't seem to make a dent in my husbands behavior or attitude. There is a lot of lip service about "communicating better, paying attention to me, doing what he says..." but there is a consistent lack of action. How can any of this stuff work if the words only penetrate through the eyes and not into the brain or heart. I am ready to scream and wish I could run away. I've been married for 22 years and am almost ready to give up. My husband doesn't have whatever it is to commit himself to basically anything. He's willing to continue living this way for the rest of our lives. If anyone can help I'm listening.