Last night, I heard my wife and our son fighting. I went upstairs and asked what was happening. My wife starts explaining about how our daughter snuck her kindle when she was not supposed to have it. OK, but what does that have to do with why she was fighting with our son? Oh, because she decided that it was the perfect time to pick a fight with him because our daughter must be copying his behavior! I tried several times to explain to her that it was not a good idea to start widening the fight. She just kept repeating that our daughter was influenced by his bad behavior and acted like I was denying that that was a factor. I responded by saying that whether or not that was a factor was not the point. The point was that if she is having a fight with one of them she should not bring the other one into the fight. It only gets everyone, including her, more angry and makes it harder for her to make any progress with either one of them.
Finally, hours later, she apologized.
My wife has confused "picking your battles" (not fighting over everything) with picking fights (finding things to fight over.)
Sorry dude...I truly am....
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Man I hate you are dealing with that....Assigning blame to a third party for being a bad example, then starting a fight over it.....LOL....
It reminds me of when I was a boy with two brothers....And something bad was done or something got broken during horse play...Then none of the three of us would confess (out of fear) or tell on each other....Mother would say...OK, go get me some switches I'm whipping all three of you until someone admits it.....My little brother would usually crack about then especially if it wasn't him...:)
I wonder about the kind of reaction your wife had here...My wife would do that w/ our youngest son before he moved out....She would use him to show her stuff on her computer or iphone, then he would take advantage of her stuff cause he knew all her passwords....They would be in the kitchen and she would be screaming for me....She had no control over him because she demanded no respect...She got on his level like another kid.....
She made it difficult on the kids, they have struggled to grow up and be responsible...She made good times the number one priority as she raising them...So it's been tough out in the real world for both of them...But to their credit, they have both graduated from college and are doing great....(They are great young men) It's just took them to their late 20's, when most of their friends graduated at 22 and have been employed for 5 or 6 years....
Any time a person has no convictions to not do these things: (Judge others, tell others what they are thinking, make accusations, attempt to manipulate and control others) it's always going to be chaos and discord in their relationships....It can't help but be.....
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