Question for non ADHD partners

Hi fellow non-ADHDers, I'm in a long term relationship with someone who is ADHD. We live together and considering marriage, but our relationship has similar problems to the ones I've been reading about on here: his irresponsibility with money and bills, being so consumed with his band that he forgets to do chores (or he's too busy to do his chores every day which results in bugs). I'm a teacher studying to be a counselor so I know about the strengths and weaknesses of an ADHD person, but my patience is starting to fade and I'm tired, depressed, and downright hateful sometimes to him. I'm starting to question whether or not I should marry him. If you guys could turn back time and marry your ADHD spouses again, would you? Thanks!