So there is this quote by a poet named Iain S Thomas--I saw it on another website--it goes like this: Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Lots of us here often post about how our ADHD person has changed us. It makes me sad that my softness is gone. My world with DH has made me hard. My pain at not having the marriage I thought I would and wasting 20 years on it makes me hate. The bitterness of the whole stupid situation has stolen my sweetness. And so here I am. About to turn 45 and mark 20 years of marriage in the fall. And I have so little to show for it. Nothing I have learned about functioning inside of an ADHD relationship is useful in the normal world. The way I act in this relationship is not the way normal people in normal relationships act. Could I even function in a normal relationship if I had the chance?
In any case...this quote just struck me.