Really think before investing so many years

This blog is filled with so many, mostly women, who have agonized for so many years over their husbands ADD behaviors.  I did the same thing, too, until after 25 years he had an affair (one of many I am sure) and walked out on the family.  Where is he today?  He's on a cruise enjoying himself with his girlfriend.  Where am I?  I am totally alone dealing with our son who is ADD, has a very good possibility of being bipolar and suffers from severe depression.  What I would give to have the years back and to have made the decision years ago to end it.  A message to all women - don't be financially dependent on your husband!  Biggest mistake I ever made!!!