I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD, and Dr. Orlov's book described my marriage to a T. My wife is seeking separation because of numerous issues that have not been resolved (that I only now know are related to ADHD). I feel like we have the chance to make things right again, with a proper understanding of ADHD, but she is unwilling to pursue further counseling, or really do anything at all. And I get it. She's got a lot of hurt, and has tried time and again with me, with little change. I get why she wants out from that. But it seems like I've just discovered a whole new set of tools to try, that are much better suited to our problems.
There's been a lot of good in our relationship, it isn't all bad. I want to see what we can do when we're both at our best.
How do I show her that things can be so much better than they were, when she will barely talk to me?