DH is incredibly sensitive to any mood of mine that isn't happy or ... happy. He takes it personally, he feels rejected and works hard to change my mood. Sometimes I come home tired or irritated or sad or a list of other emotions that aren't "good". DH is in sex addiction recovery as well as working on managing his ADHD. He takes his meds, he goes to therapy. He does a great job engaging help, no complaints about him living in denial or unwilling to seek help. But his attitude about both the addiction and the ADHD, have been "I'm getting help, why are you ____ (sad, angry, hurt, exhausted)? He talked about wanting to die when we fight, almost every fight this is brought up after we resolve the argument. He says he's just so sad, he wants to die.
I've read about rejection sensitivity for people with ADHD. But I feel like a monster when he reacts so strongly to me. Like maybe my emotions are much larger and worse than I realize if his reaction is so large? It has created an unbelievably exhaustion, I will find other things to do instead of going home because it's just hard to be happy all of the time.
I'm wondering if anyone has had experience with this and what you've done for your own sanity?
Sounds like you need a third party
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I suggest you go to a counselor, and let the counselor deal with this issue....Your spouse needs to hear from an educated third party, that moodiness or different moods aren't uncommon, and that he should not ever take your moods as his responsibility...A good counselor will draw the line for him, and help him to separate emotionally from what you own, and not him.....
It's not uncommon for an ADD minded person to want to control or manipulate others...Even their countenance.....
Good luck w/ this