After 40 years of my overfunctioning and supporting him, H says to me, "What did you EVER do for ME?" Don't let that be your story when you are over 60 years old.
Here is what might work with someone who does not see that they are not pulling their share of the workload. Just saw this going around on Facebook. I wish I would have done this EARLY in our partnership. I thinks it is too late for me. H is too far gone for any change or improvement. But here it is something for you younger people to use this with a child or spouse. After 40 years of my overfunctioning, H says to me, "What did you EVER do for ME?" Don't let that be your story when you are over 60 years old.
She taped a note to his door. The note included a contract that was intended to teach him a lesson about responsibility, respect and finances.
“Since you seem to have forgotten that you are only 13 and I’m the parent, and that you won’t be controlled, I guess you will need to learn a lesson in independence," Havisham wrote in the letter. “Also, as you threw in my face that you are making money now, it will be easier to buy back all the items I bought for you in the past.”
The mother then detailed the various bills her son would need to start paying now that he was making money, including $430 a month for rent, $116 for electricity, $21 for Internet and $150 for food.
“Also you will need to empty the trash Mon, Wed & Friday as well as sweep and vacuum those days," the note continues. "You will need to keep your bathroom clean weekly, prepare your own meals and clean up after yourself. If you fail to do so I will charge you a $30 maid fee for every day I have to do it."
“If you decide you would rather be MY CHILD again instead of a roommate, we can negotiate terms."