We've known about the ADHD for several months now. His biggest attempt in the matter is to "try harder" "do better" and "not treat me this way". But as a result, we wrap around to the same issues, the same destructive patterns and the same hurt and painful feelings. How much longer do I hold on? What options do I have? We are in the midst of rock bottom once again. I am raw with hurt and pain from neglect, abandonment, broken promises and being taken for granted moment after moment that I can see leaving as the only alternative. I do see the pain in his eyes. I see that he is hurting too, that perhaps he is "trying his best" but is just spinning his wheels. I have been kind. I have been patient. I have been hopeful. But I can't force the medication, the counseling or the treatment. It's lonely, it's just shy of abusive and I am not seeing a way to "calm down" and work this time through. The hopelessness is overwhelming and I feel at this time I would be much less lonely if I were alone, rather than in a roommate situation.
Has anyone been this far down, and come back up again - when you aren't in control of the ADHD and their behavior, treatment or otherwise? Any suggestions would be helpful.