My husband was diagnosed with diabetes about four or five years ago. I don't know if this is the reason for low sex drive or not, but when I try to talk to him about it he blames it on not wanting to have sex with me because not interested in me anymore. Due to my forgetfulness of items that i have forgotten to do, packed in his lunch, errands I didn't run, didn't pick up on knowing what types of things, food or whatever he would like for me to buy for him etc. We have been together for twenty years and there are times that I didn't think we would make it. I miss intimacy. He tells me he loves me everyday, but I cannot get him interested in sex. He buys me "toys" and tells me that it is my problem.
Sex deprived because Non-ADHD spouse can't trust me
Submitted by Poohnot on 10/26/2020.
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
I wanted to provide another point of view on the lack of intimacy in your marriage.
Men and women are wired differently. I know that women connect emotionally to their partners through sex, or at least I do. If I don't feel emotionally connected to my partner, or we are at odds, the interest in sex isn't there.
I was in an abusive marriage for a number of years. Back then, sex for me was a chore. It was impossible for me to enjoy sex with him on any level. I knew he despised me, and I felt degraded.
My personal experience aside, perhaps your husband is not feeling amorous due to a disconnect he feels toward you. His diabetes could also be a reason for a lower sex drive. Perhaps its a combination of both.
Submitted by c ur self on
I agree with Adele....IF I were your husband, there would only be a few things I can think of that would turn me away from an active sex life w/ my wife.....I couldn't trust you to be kind, loving and understanding if I tried and failed to perform (low libido)....If I had lost desire for you because our relationship was so bad in other area's of day to day life....(fussing, fighting, cheating etc)
It's impossible to think for others....But, I am truly sorry, love making is a big part of being married for healthy, normal couples....