Just before we found out that my Husband was diagnosed with ADHD we decided that it was a mutual goal of ours to buy a house by the end of this year. Now that we know he has ADHD, I'm contemplating whether or not buying a house is a good decision for us. I know it's a huge responsibility and a huge commitment. If I don't feel like I can rely on him or trust him to get things done at all (like now), I can see it being a big potential problem down the road. I also know that it would likely mean more responsibility for me and I already feel very overwhelmed. On the other hand, we hate having to deal with a landlord, our current place is too small, and our upstairs neighbor is so noisy and rude. He is a musician and he plays his music pretty late most of the time. I don't think that either of us currently makes enough money to be able to afford to buy a house on our own so I don't think I will be able to just buy a house on my own. I know that I won't be able to continue living in our current place that much longer though because it depresses me and stresses me out so much. I hate not feeling like I have enough privacy and quiet time to myself. We can maybe consider renting a house, but the rent would be a lot more expensive than if we bought a house and we wouldn't have the freedom to do whatever we want with it. It also seems like most places in our area are apartments with upstairs or downstairs neighbors so we'd likely just run into the same issue of having to deal with a lot of noise on a regular basis. Since I'm contemplating divorce right now due to our problems, I'm very concerned on what would happen with the house if we got a divorce eventually.
Does anyone here with an ADHD spouse own a house? If so, what is it like? Do you regret the decision or is it going well?