Side effects of medications--is there a med I can take?

I am a 58 year old male and was diagnosed with ADHD about 14 months ago. Before being diagnosed with ADHD I regularly exercised, took fish oil, and I have been on an anti-depressant for several years that really allowed me to sleep well for the first time in my life. I have tried: Vyvanse, Concerta, and Stratera. I tried each one for several weeks. All 3 made me feel awful physically. I felt tired all the time and just felt "yucky." I also did not notice any help with my distracted mind. With my marriage of 33 years on the brink of failure--yes, my non-ADHD wife has put up with me for 33 years--she is great but about out of patience--I plan to try meds again. Do you have any suggestions?